Battling for Control in a SExual Relationship

There are 2 ways people try to control their partners: [1] In present day; where very little love is shared, the partners attempt to control each other to try to control their partner. The male attempts to use the female as a reserve for hi own needs. The female does the same; except, females attempt to accrue many partners. [2] In a true relationship, control is mutual. it is used by both the female and male to pleasure the other in a loving and caring way. The male and female creates his/her own pleasure by pleasuring his/ her partner. This type of pleasure is more extrinsical than intrinsical. The individual pleasures the other, By taking control, the individual may regulate and moderate the partner's pleasure. This creates a pleasure by watching and listening to the partner's pleasure. In some cases, voyeurism, wife swapping, a boyfriend or girlfriend bringing an extrinsical partner into a relationship creates a greater pleasure to the individual; as well as the partner. This is the similar type of relationship as the one in #2 above.